This month, my wife and I celebrate our third anniversary. Laura is the best thing that has happened to me, and I count myself incredibly blessed to share my life with a woman who is beautiful, incredibly funny, virtuous and holy, industrious, strong, unfailingly cheerful, and a wonderful mother to our children.
Before I met Laura, though, I confess I didn’t always have the best luck with women. In fact, I had somewhat of a kamikaze approach to dating that involved a lot of crashing and burning. But despite my mishaps, I learned a lot of good lessons—lessons that I believe made me a better man.
Beginning today, I’d like to share a few of those lessons with Catholic men who have discerned they are called to marriage, but who have not yet found a spouse, or if they have, have not yet gotten married.
Why? Because let’s face it, we live in a culture that is hostile to marriage. If you want to get married and start a family, especially at a young age, you’re looked at as some sort of freak, or at least hopelessly naïve. Most people believe that monogamy is unrealistic, limiting, and unfulfilling, and the responsibilities and challenges that come with marriage and family are to be avoided at all costs.
In writing this series, I want to disabuse some of those erroneous notions, as well as provide encouragement for those who hope to receive the sacrament of Holy Matrimony. I hope to provide some basic advice for those who want to approach relationships in a way that is pleasing to Our Lord.
Please be aware that, having been married only a short time, I do not consider myself the expert on marriage or dating. Some of the things I will share I have learned from experience, but many of the them are universal principles that I have gleaned from others.
Finally, it is my desire that this be a conversation, with you sharing your experiences and thoughts about this important subject. Stay tuned!